Why is learning how to build relationships so important to our well-being?
It’s safe to assert that throughout our lives we’ve all encountered many many people. And of course the older we get the more people we meet.
It all started with our mom then the obstetrician / Mid-Wife who helped us out and introduced us to our new world. Right from the beginning we were forced outside of our comfort zone! I don’t think any of us would have minded delaying the inevitable and linger a little bit longer in the nice and cozy confines of our mom’s belly. To be honest, had we not been forced out of it, I don’t think we would have come out, ever!
From then on, the socialising never stopped! Truth being told, some we could have done without. We learned very early on that our language (including body language) would help guide (determine) and influence our relationships and ultimately our lives.
As we grew older and had to rely on ourselves to survive (and no longer our parents), we adopted certain patterns and beliefs to keep us safe and help us thrive. These became our “winning formulas” which we use over and over again, no matter how appropriate.
In our professional lives, we strategically “network” to open new doors and facilitate growth opportunities.
In our social lives, we form deeper connections to feel a sense of belonging and stability, especially during difficult times.
Then sometimes, we get so busy with our lives that we forget to nurture these relationships. We take them for granted. We prioritise work over friends. Slowly the distance separating us becomes increasingly larger and the shame we feel for not having been there supersedes all other principles – we never reach out and lose a friend.
But it’s never too late! You can reactivate your old relationships (if they’re still open to it!) and make new ones more fitting to the new you.
It’s not as difficult as you may think. It just requires a clear strategy and action from your part. I’d love to share my 5 techniques with you. Just apply them and you will see instant results.
Remember, “The grass is only green where it gets watered.”
No matter how independent we want to be, we need others to survive and thrive. We don’t realize how important healthy relationships are to our mental and physical well-being. When we don’t have them:
We break. We fall apart. We grow numb. We ache. We hurt others. We get sick. There are certainly other causes of illness, numbness, and hurt, but the absence of love and belonging will always lead to suffering .